Nine years after the Obergefell v. Hodges decision by the Supreme Court, concerns by Christian constitutional conservatives about the “slippery slope” the LGBT culture war put us on are being realized by the growing acceptance of polyamory and what is becoming known as “ethical nonmonogamy.”
While studies indicate that only about 5 percent of Americans are currently in polyamorous relationships, growing interest and acceptance of the practice could damage a broad range of relationships and families (via WORLD):
A 2023 study from the online dating company Match found that only 49 percent of single Americans listed monogamy as their “ideal sexual relationship structure.” Over 30 percent had already been in relationships of more than two people. In his book Cheap Sex: The Transformation of Men, Marriage, and Monogamy, sociologist Mark Regnerus writes that 24 percent of churchgoers ages 24 to 35 affirm consensual nonmonogamy as morally acceptable.
Nonmonogamy is an umbrella term for relationships in which a couple consents to having outside romantic or sexual partners. Polyamory specifically refers to a closed group of more than two people who engage in romance or sex.
In February, the Organization for Polyamory and Ethical Non-Monogamy rallied sponsors to support legislation in two California cities that would extend anti-discrimination laws to people in romantic relationships of more than two people. Two Massachusetts cities have already passed similar laws.
“I think we’ve just reached a point where [polyamory and nonmonogamy] is sort of starting to break through . . . As it gains more publicity, more people become aware of it … there’s more media, and so on,” said Brett Chamberlin, the group’s founder and executive director.
In his dissenting opinion in Obergefell v. Hodges — the case that opened the floodgates to same-sex marriage and launched the LGBT agenda into the stratosphere — Supreme Court Chief Justice John Roberts issued this warning: “It is striking how much the majority’s reasoning [in support of same-sex marriage] would apply with equal force to the claim of a fundamental right to plural marriage.” Almost immediately, Roberts’ opinion was seized by LGBT extremists as they began their push to legalize polyamory and polygamy.
Initially, attempts to legitimize polyamory failed because there was no legal precedent on the issue, but as the WORLD article pointed out, things began to change in when the Somerville, Massachusetts city council voted unanimously in July 2020 to redefine the definition of what constitutes a family when they granted polyamorous relationships the same legal recognition given to married couples. In the words of Councilor Lance Davis, one of the many who helped draft the ordinance:
“I don’t think it’s the place of the government to tell people what is or is not a family.
“Defining families is something that historically we’ve gotten quite wrong as a society, and we ought not to continue to try and undertake to do so.”
If “not the place of government” sounds familiar, it’s because that’s the same rhetoric used for years that eventually led to the Obergefell same-sex marriage decision and the launch of the rest of the LGBT agenda.
In March 2021, the legalization of polyamory picked up momentum when the city of Cambridge, Massachusetts became the second municipality in America at the time to legalize domestic partnerships between three or more people. The Cambridge City Council approved an ordinance removing the requirement that domestic partnerships be limited to two partners.
“I supported this ordinance because governments have too often tried to narrowly prescribe partnership in methods that don’t align with the ways that people connect and support one another,” said Jivan Sobrinho-Wheeler, a Cambridge city councilor who worked with the newly formed Polyamory Legal Advocacy Coalition (PLAC) — yes, that’s a real thing — to make the change. “This was one way we could support our residents in polyamorous relationships to apply for and receive the benefits that come with domestic partnership.” (Emphasis mine)
Following passage of the Cambridge ordinance, PLAC released an official statement bragging about the role they played:
“The [Cambridge] ordinance was developed with detailed input from the [coalition] and is the first of what advocates hope will be a wave of legal recognition for polyamorous families and relationships in 2021.”
In August 2021, a Harvard Law School publication (Harvard Law Today) released a report designed to promote polyamory. Here’s an excerpt:
Polyamory is a form of non-monogamous relationship involving more than two adult partners at the same time, with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved, according to Polyamory Legal Advocacy Coalition, also known as PLAC, which was established in the fall of 2020 by a psychologist and five lawyers focused on LGBTQ+ issues.
These types of relationships are becoming increasingly common, according to PLAC, which notes that 4 to 5 percent of people in the U.S. are in a consensual non-monogamous relationship. Polyamory stands out from other such relationships, PLAC explains, because polyamorists tend to be open to falling in love with more than one person. (Polyamory is different than polygamy, in which one husband has multiple wives — a practice frowned upon as patriarchal and one-sided by many polyamory advocates.) Yet despite the emphasis on love among its adherents, polyamorous relationships have few legal protections and people and families face discrimination in such basic needs as jobs, housing, and obtaining health insurance for more than one partner. (Emphasis mine)
Wait a minute! Polyamory advocates are opposed to polygamy because it’s “patriarchal and one-sided”? It’s good to see that the folks at Harvard Law School are drawing the line somewhere.
Ironically, LGBT extremists claim that it isn’t government’s place to tell them what defines a marriage or a family, yet the legalization of polyamory does exactly that — only from a pro-LGBT point-of-view.
The “If you don’t believe in same-sex marriage, don’t have one” crowd is already using a similar argument in defense of polyamorous relationships as they fight to make the legalization of polyamory an equal rights issue, leading to the creation of a constitutionally protected right to polyamorous relationships and the permanent destruction of the institution of marriage.
Any doubt about the destruction of marriage as the ultimate goal is easily erased by this quote from Masha Gessen (a lesbian activist and journalist):
“The institution of marriage is going to change, and it should change. And again, I don’t think it should exist.
“I have three kids who have five parents, more or less, and I don’t see why they shouldn’t have five parents legally… I would like to live in a legal system that is capable of reflecting that reality, and I don’t think that’s compatible with the institution of marriage.”
I’ve written a lot over the years about the LGBT agenda and the culture war against America, a war that has resulted in redefining heterosexual and gender norms, “normalizing” homosexuality and transgenderism, normalizing polyamory, and normalizing multi-partner relationships and marriages.
By the way, for the Trumpists who think that we can turn things around in November, let me remind you that Donald Trump is running for office on a promise to advance the LGBT agenda.
The evolution from ignoring things done “between two consenting adults in private” to government-enforced and mandatory acceptance of every form of sexual deviancy has been occurring for decades, and the casualties left in the rubble of the LGBT culture war have piled up as religious liberty, morality, and traditional family values are systematically destroyed.
David Leach
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